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In pursuit of the good life.

Based on my recent firsthand account.

If men had to give birth, the labor and delivery process would be much more comfortable. Perhaps women can withstand more pain or they are more willing to suffer in silence. Regardless, there must be a better way. The following explores some of the issues and potential solutions from a dad’s perspective. None of it is intended as medical advice.

“This Ain’t Vacation”

When we arrived at the hospital recently for the birth of our son, a valet greeted us and took our car. We were off to a promising start. My wife and I had tried to pack light. There were no…

A Dad’s perspective on labor & delivery, plus other lifestyle topics.

Our son was born on April 29th at 6:41 PM EST. There is nothing quite comparable to the first cries you hear after a baby’s entrance to the world. Everyone cheered. Especially my wife, despite utter exhaustion from 30+ hours of labor.

The overall experience convinced me that the labor and delivery process could benefit from reform. Read the latest piece here for our story. It highlights some of the pain points from arriving at the hospital to breastfeeding our hungry little prince. Of course, this is Dad’s perspective — all the credit goes to Mom for bringing this beautiful…

A journey from the oven, through American literature, and into my favorite pot connoisseur’s brain.

We are on baby watch here. My wife could pop at any minute. So what does one prepare for someone in such a state? Lusciously tender spare ribs of course. Check out the article here where I break down the differences between spare ribs and their close cousin, baby back ribs. I dive into everything from preparation to execution. You won’t find a sauce recipe, but kudos to you if you make one from scratch. I used a cold brew coffee infused barbecue sauce that worked wonders on the top half of the rack pictured above. …

Celebrating these beautiful cuts of pork.

I am not a pitmaster. Let’s get that out of the way first. You don’t need to be one though to make lusciously tender, fall-off-the-bone baby back ribs or spare ribs.

What you do need is time — some three plus hours in fact. Once the ribs are in the oven though, it is largely a waiting game unless you are the type to make your own sauce (kudos to you). The waiting is the best part. Don’t let Tom Petty tell you otherwise. …

Why the two are not mutually exclusive.

I struggle with sleep. Working a full time job, preparing to be a dad, maintaining a house, and finding time to write means that sleep often eludes me. Over the years I have convinced myself, even when evidence suggests otherwise, that I cannot be successful if I sleep 7 to 8 hours per night. While I’m sleeping, someone is grinding faster or hustling harder. I would tell myself to suck it up. Caffeine could cure my exhaustion. Unitil it couldn’t.

I previously wrote an article on turning off, tuning out, and dropping in. The only problem is that I do…

Should I feel guilty?

It will be unsurprising to some, and unjust to others, but the pandemic made me richer. While the world ground to a halt last year, my wife and I were fortunate to hunker down safely. We were protected in both profession and health. Our white collar jobs fell in the sweet spot of workers — an ability to work from home, not considered essential employees, but needed in order for our respective companies to operate properly. With relatively stable job security, we could hunker down with ease. Potential boredom presented the only threat to our health and happiness.

My discovery of one of the world’s best ingredients.

I have an infatuation with garlic. Yes, the health benefits abound, but for me it’s the flavor and versatility of this allium species. As in most cases involving the senses, memory plays an inextricable role.

My earliest encounters with garlic were limited. My family rarely — if ever — cooked with the garlic bulb itself. What I remember most is garlic bread. Often paired with spaghetti or my Dad’s lasagna, the bread was baked with loads of butter and heavy doses of garlic powder. It tasted delicious, but for years I had no idea of garlic in any other context…

Do you want the C-suite or a C grade for your career?

It may sound counterintuitive, but it is a secret to success. One of the best ways to get ahead in your career is by avoiding work. Focus on important projects. Prioritize work that brings visibility and recognition. Is that conniving and calculating? Definitely. But you have to ask yourself whether you want to aspire to the C-suite or to a C grade for your career.

What To Avoid

Avoiding work is different from working hard or having a good work ethic. If you are like me and work for a large organization, people probably bombard you with requests from all directions throughout the…

Why we should fear the implications of the Wallstreetbets-fueled hysteria.

There is comedy and a certain amount of “fight the power” when reading about average people like “DeepF-ingValue” squeezing a sophisticated hedge fund’s short position. After decades of hearing about Wall Street’s woes, and with expanding inequality across America, it is hard not to like these modern day Robinhoods. But we must ask ourselves — is this the type of activity we want in capital markets? Bands of people encouraging each other to pump up stocks to squeeze a hedge fund’s short position? It is basically a modified version of a pump-and-dump scheme. Although these individuals may not be communicating…

Can America “deprogram” the increasingly mainstream presence of far right extremists?

Over 70 million people voted for Donald J. Trump in the 2020 election. Yet not all Trump and far right voters are the same. Some think he’s saving America from a cabal of liberal satanists and pedophiles, while others simply like lower taxes and are willing to sacrifice any semblance of morality and dignity to realize them. It is unfair to characterize all Trump voters as the same. They vary in degree, as they do in cultish fervor. The question remains — can America deprogram the far right extremist fringe of Trump supporters?

While I may question those willing to…

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